Instead we look to answer our basic needs; we put on our sexiest hunting outfits and troll the bars and clubs – anywhere we might find the one who will give us the most satisfaction and pleasure. It has no place in today’s world, and will not serve the modern human in their pursuit to develop a mutually satisfying relationship.
When I met my wife it was clear that she and I shared the same core values like kindness, honesty and being a contribution to others. If you take the time to contemplate these basic questions, you’ll go a long way to separate yourself from the usual pack of knuckle-draggers, and distinguish yourself as an evolved human with whom anyone would be lucky to share their cave. As hard as it might seem to get into a good relationship, trust me, it’s harder to get out of a bad one. I am dedicated to helping women get it right the first time.We also shared the same life goals: raising children, building wealth, owning a home, vacationing, to name a few. We are each concerned with fulfilling 100% of the needs of the relationship, not just our own individual needs. You’re here because you want to have a better life through a strong, loving relationship. My wife and I are clear on what our roles are within the relationship, and we are diligent about being 100% responsible in those roles. Being in a relationship has to be about letting go of the identity of “I” in order to create the healthy relationship of “Us.” So, before you go out looking for any potential mates, ask yourself these questions: What do I have to offer a relationship? This ‘holiday’ brings up feelings of neglect, loneliness, pressure and upset. 1) They’re Not Professionals You’re close with your friends. However they do not have the training or knowledge you need when it comes to the matters of your heart. “Lisa” came to coaching because she was still trying to get over a relationship that had ended several months earlier. We slept, hunted, ate, pooped and had sex (not necessarily in that order). Sexual attraction was an innate instinct, imperative for the survival and propagation of our species. If you’ve been “out there” for a while then you probably realized how frustrating the dating world can be. We slept, hunted, ate, pooped and had sex (not necessarily in that order). Sexual attraction was an innate instinct, imperative for the survival and propagation of our species.We weren’t concerned about having fulfilling relationships; all we cared about was survival and self-preservation.
Now over fifty thousand years later, we have evolved, for better or for worse, into a complex race.
We have art, literature, science, and an infinite selection of choices, possibilities, and direction in which we can wander.
Instead of risking our lives to hunt and gather, we just head to the grocery store and whip out our credit card at the checkout.
While we sleep, our biggest concern is room temperature, not becoming a snack for a ferocious saber tooth beast.
Yet, when it comes to intimate relationships we tend to slide back into our Neolithic way of thinking: Survival Mode.
We don’t contemplate the creation and cultivation of a healthy relationship; most of us don’t even know what that means!