Love men dating game playing narcissism

10-Oct-2015 08:49 by 4 Comments

Love men dating game playing narcissism

I went to a Christian college where there was said to be one man to every seven women.

We tend to freeze, to stall, to wait, and to postpone decision making out of fear of making the wrong choice. I personally know plenty of Christian men who have fallen into that trap, rejecting the bright, godly, amazing women God has put in front of their eyes out of fear of missing out on something or someone that might not even exist.

So to this group of men I say: Man-up and make some choices!!

Don’t dabble into relationships, don’t show interest in 10 women at a time all while trying to find which one you like best, and quit holding out for a woman who might simply be a figment of your imagination Open your eyes to the blessings all around you, and be courageous to take next steps.

God does not give us a spirit of fear, but of power. MEN ARE ALSO STRUGGLING WITH INSECURITIES AND DOUBTS: Another big-picture reason why I believe that our men aren’t taking next steps in relationships is because they are filled with doubts.

I’ve heard these question countless times and have even been the one asking the question once upon a time.

In Christian circles, it’s not uncommon to hear the women complaining that the men in their church just aren’t stepping up and initiating a relationship!

Let me preface this Q&A by saying that I’m not typically one to offer simple cookie-cutter answers, because as a Professional Counselor, I find that everything in life is so much more complex than it may seem on the outside- including answers to questions like this.But as I’ve been stewing over this question for a while, a couple things came to mind as to why this concern keeps coming up again and again: MEN ARE INUNDATED WITH CHOICE: It doesn’t take a relationship expert to tell you that in this day and age, one of the biggest problems with lack of decision-making in relationships is the fact that there are simply too many choices!Thanks to the internet, at any given moment, there are thousands of people to choose from just at our fingertips. There is an array of choices, colors, styles, personalities, and body types right before his two little eyes.Not only that, but we are made to believe that the more choices, the better. With so many choices, it takes a whole lot of making-out to find the right one (insert sarcastic voice here).It’s sad that this is how our society portrays the concept of finding the right relationship, because it couldn’t be more twisted and confusing than this.Yet, with the men to women ratio in Christian circles being what it is (almost always being more single women than men) sometimes I feel that this same problem presents itself within the church culture as well.